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"Swinging is something couples do together as part of their sexual dynamics as couple." [LOL - I messed up the quote thing]

So true, so true! MFM or FMF what ever the mix everyone should be on the same page. As in the case of all our experiences it is mutual to stimulate the dynamics of our marriage. In short, we get off on it, before, during and after. Sometimes it comes after adult games, parties or even by random encounters; but whenever it happens it is because we all agree.

As for the "private one-on-one in the other room bit", we have never done that in a threesome situation. It's always true simultaneous action. It's so hotter that way.

I'd say you've opened the lid to Pandora's box. Now the question is how to close it and get on the right foot. Perhaps a total change of venue and participants would help. Be careful if she doesn't agree and keeps pushing to do it with your friend.