John and I read this and
. We agree with everyone here. Breach of trust...lying....means no good. We also think that sitting down with him and explaining your feelings is a good idea. But got to say..I would be watching and if things present themselves again then I would back out of this relationship. There are many couples as yourselves and know it is hard but you can find one that follows the rules that have been set up.
Swinging is based on trust and communication. Without them...changes things and then the swinging isn't fun any more.
My 2 cents,
Rhonda