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MrkLin · 11-16-2008, 09:18 PM

Anything is certainly possible, but are you sure they have the impression that you're not interested? Maybe they were just making the rounds, greeting new couples? We've seen that. At one of our local clubs, there are 3 or 4 regular couples who make it a point to greet people they've never met there before. Chats can last anywhere from a few seconds to an hour or more, depending on how they hit it off. Generally speaking, most couples go to an on-premise club with expectations of their own, only to discover later that those expectations were a little too high.

Body language, attitude, tone of voice, and just the content of the chat by itself can tell people a lot about you. If you're friendly, polite, and are genuinely interested in having a conversation with someone, they'll know. If, on the other hand, you act like you're just killing time, or aren't interested in chatting with them, they'll know that too.

I think it would probably tend to be more of a case of nobody knowing you. Our first trip to our local club was a disappointment to both of us. We kept going, however, and things got a lot better as we got to know people. Our confidence increased, and we were a lot more comfortable with approaching people and initiating the conversation. My opinion is that you keep going, and as you become more familiar to couples who frequent the club, you'll see the change.

11-16-2008, 09:18 PM	#3 (permalink)
MrkLin Your Tent or Ours? Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 706 Location: mm Status: Couple	Re: Did we say something wrong? Anything is certainly possible, but are you sure they have the impression that you're not interested? Maybe they were just making the rounds, greeting new couples? We've seen that. At one of our local clubs, there are 3 or 4 regular couples who make it a point to greet people they've never met there before. Chats can last anywhere from a few seconds to an hour or more, depending on how they hit it off. Generally speaking, most couples go to an on-premise club with expectations of their own, only to discover later that those expectations were a little too high. Body language, attitude, tone of voice, and just the content of the chat by itself can tell people a lot about you. If you're friendly, polite, and are genuinely interested in having a conversation with someone, they'll know. If, on the other hand, you act like you're just killing time, or aren't interested in chatting with them, they'll know that too. I think it would probably tend to be more of a case of nobody knowing you. Our first trip to our local club was a disappointment to both of us. We kept going, however, and things got a lot better as we got to know people. Our confidence increased, and we were a lot more comfortable with approaching people and initiating the conversation. My opinion is that you keep going, and as you become more familiar to couples who frequent the club, you'll see the change.