Wife2love,
We were worried about the exact same thing when my husband and I started talking about this lifestyle and we had our first experience with a bbw/bhm couple who are one of our closest friends. We've never been to a club yet.
I am 250lbs and my husband is 365lbs. He's losing the weight rather quickly and I am trying to ease my baby making battle scars! LOL.
I look at it this way, if there are going to be people who won't approach me, whether at a club or a social situation in general, simply because of how I look then I consider them too shallow to be with me at all! I am so outgoing and self confident these days that I sometimes ask myself when did this happen??
I was always slightly pudgy anyway (not overweight by much) and was very down on myself during my teen years. I would cry and moan "why doesn't anyone like me???" It took a long time to realize I didn't like me and was portraying that image to everyone around me. Anyway, that's neither here nor there about my past...lol
Point is.. I realized in the past year or so, after going through some major post truamatic stress and depression that I am who I am body weight and all and the most important thing is that my husband loves my body, he gets turned on by MY body and wants it all the time!! It doesn't matter what Tom, Dick, Harry, Tina, Delia or Harriet think of my body!!!!
I would want to be with someone for who they are and what they portray to me is on the inside. If you are overweight or skinny or average and look like you haven't showered this year I might have a problem with being with you sexually But if you have a winning personality, a happy outlook on who you are then my husband and I would love to know you, big, little or in between. it's all good.
Tigress xx
(hope I made sense somewhere in my rambling)