[cocpl2007]

We have found ourselves in several situations where nothing happened. No one “started” and the evening wore on until it was no longer an opportunity. We have talked about these situations, and both agreed that there was a variety of reasons playing was not initiated. One couple, there was clearly sufficient chemistry between two of the four present, but not all four. With another, when the kissing prohibition was presented, in a less than conciliatory manner (“Why on earth would I want to kiss someone other than my Spouse?”). It was like a bucket of ice water to the mood. Probably the most colorful: we were at a couples home… very nice place. They invited us into their “play room” which was all set up for some pretty exotic play. The other lady shared with us her husbands “goal” to achieve 24 hours of continual copulation in one event. DW at that instant would have pulled the trap door and had us vaporize from their “play room” The last thing she has any desire to be is a whoopee cushion for some guys ego. It was pretty clear that his wife had zero interest in personal accommodating him for this record-setting copulation session.

Over the years, it seems that when the chemistry is there, the sparks will fly enough to start a good fire. When the mutual chemistry is not filling the air, no amount of ignition can start a fire.