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***JustAskJulie*** · 11-13-2008, 05:43 PM

There's another thread here about couples with children vs. couples without children and it got me thinking about something that was already rolling around in my head.

Recently we contacted a couple that has children (their ad didn't say they had children but given the age it's a safe assumption up front). We asked if they were interested and their first reply was nothing more than "yes we are interested". So we wrote back and asked about making plans to meet for dinner or drinks and gave a basic rundown of our schedule and when we are available. They wrote back with "we'll have to line up a sitter and get back to you".

Ok, so when are you lining a sitter up for? Should we keep our shedules open for you for the next 3 weeks? Or is my initial thought that we will probably never hear from you again correct?

So my advice to those of you who have children, whether you are contacting/being contacted by another couple with kids or without... when you reply back that you need to line up a sitter, try at least give an idea of when you might be considering lining up said sitter.

Would it be rude of me to reply back to them "When do you think you'll be lining that sitter up for?" or would that just come off as pushy (probably the latter). I've gotten internet bitch-slapped before by a couple with kids who got their panties in a wad because I suggested we line up a date to meet and they took that to mean that we should meet tomorrow and how dare we forget that they have kids and have to get a sitter.

So for those that have kids.... we all understand that you have kids... but you have to understand that everyone else can't be expected to just sit around waiting for your schedule to magically open up and for you to get a sitter, so you can let us know at the last minute. I'd dare say that most people with kids have a vague idea of when they might be able to get a sitter, many of you already have one scheduled for every other weekend or so. So if you want to actually meet people then be specific when trying to set up a date and don't just leave people hanging with this vague "we've got to get a sitter" excuse.

//end rant

11-13-2008, 05:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,293 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Advice to Couples With Children There's another thread here about couples with children vs. couples without children and it got me thinking about something that was already rolling around in my head. Recently we contacted a couple that has children (their ad didn't say they had children but given the age it's a safe assumption up front). We asked if they were interested and their first reply was nothing more than "yes we are interested". So we wrote back and asked about making plans to meet for dinner or drinks and gave a basic rundown of our schedule and when we are available. They wrote back with "we'll have to line up a sitter and get back to you". Ok, so when are you lining a sitter up for? Should we keep our shedules open for you for the next 3 weeks? Or is my initial thought that we will probably never hear from you again correct? So my advice to those of you who have children, whether you are contacting/being contacted by another couple with kids or without... when you reply back that you need to line up a sitter, try at least give an idea of when you might be considering lining up said sitter. Would it be rude of me to reply back to them "When do you think you'll be lining that sitter up for?" or would that just come off as pushy (probably the latter). I've gotten internet bitch-slapped before by a couple with kids who got their panties in a wad because I suggested we line up a date to meet and they took that to mean that we should meet tomorrow and how dare we forget that they have kids and have to get a sitter. So for those that have kids.... we all understand that you have kids... but you have to understand that everyone else can't be expected to just sit around waiting for your schedule to magically open up and for you to get a sitter, so you can let us know at the last minute. I'd dare say that most people with kids have a vague idea of when they might be able to get a sitter, many of you already have one scheduled for every other weekend or so. So if you want to actually meet people then be specific when trying to set up a date and don't just leave people hanging with this vague "we've got to get a sitter" excuse. //end rant