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Originally Posted by TravlParty  So, this is probably new. I'm actually looking to replace a regular single male (due to his work schedule changing). Damn, when I finally found one that I liked. He was respectful, nice, clean, and great in bed. Sigh |
That sucks! I hate it when we have a good one and he either gets married, starts a dating relationship or moves
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Just wondering - how does everyone else approach single males? How do you nicely tell them there's no chemistry? I'm usually very direct, but don't want to hurt feelings either. Also, the last thing I need is another stalker (been there).
I thought about calling girlfriends to ask for references, and did talk to a couple. They couldn't give me anyone they would recommend. 
I'm surprised at how difficult this is.
Mrs. T
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It's been so long since Ted and I looked for single males through an ad site, I'm not sure I remember how we did it. For the past few years we've found all our single male play buddies through house parties, which is great because you can try them on for size that night or just talk to them and get their contact info to use another time.
When we were looking on ad sites, I'd usually contact someone I found had an interesting profile, as well as met my looks requirement. We'd chat for a bit and if the chat went well, we'd set up a meet for a drink somewhere. From there we were able to decide if it was going to work or not. When we were contacted by single men, we used the same M.O., chat for a while, set up a meet and then see where things go. We always made it known that the first meet was just a "get to know you" meet and no play should be expected. Of course, more often than not...we usually did play on the first meet
If we felt that it just wasn't going to work, an e-mail the next day thanking them for meeting us but, we just didn't feel it was going to happen and wishing them well, was sent.
We also used references from other couples who also enjoy playing with single men. I've always said, word of mouth was the best advertisement for single men...if one couple likes you word will get around that you're a good one.
Attending clubs and socials that allowed single men, was also a way we met them.
I hope things work out for you...I know I hate it when I lose one from my stable.
Teresa