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Originally Posted by Alura  We've found swingers are quick to hug upon arrival if they have sex in mind. In that case, hold hands immediately after the hug, then interlace fingers. If that is met with enthusiasm, a kiss is natural, even expected. |
That's something I've never thought of. I'm going to have to pay closer attention from now on. Thanks for sharing that, Mr. Alura.
We tend to invite only people we've played with before to our home. With that being the case, it's usually already decided that we're going to play, it's only a question of when - and that really depends on the couple. With one couple, we can guarantee that she's going to be naked within 30 minutes of her walking in the door - I do so love a woman who knows what she wants, and goes for it. With some others, we do have to nudge a bit here and there. The sexy banter between us usually helps, as does something as simple as seating arrangements. We've discovered that couples who tend to sit together sometimes need a bit more of a nudge than others. Let me explain...
We have a sofa and love seat in our living room, and they're arranged so that they sit across from each other, with a coffee table between them. If he sits on the sofa, and she sits on the love seat, then that usually indicates they want us to sit with them. Sitting next to your potential playmate while your mate is sitting with his/hers makes it a lot easier to get something started. If they both sit together on either the couch or love seat, leaving Lin and I to sit across from them with the table separating us, we're going to have to come up with a way to get things rolling. We usually do that by starting something ourselves as the situation evolves, then inviting the other couple to join us.