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jonelle514 · 11-13-2008, 04:00 PM

I want to be a swinger, I guess I had different expectations. I wanted to be with a female, then have same room sex and MAYBE a full swap. I wanted to ease into it. When we talked about the experience with this couple I told him that I like to know what is going on. I want to be prepared for what is going to happen so I can process it and when he made out with her, jumped in when I was playing with her, got a bj from her and then was rubbing on her while she was having sex with her husband I was upset because it was something I wasn't prepared for. I was strictly under the impression that he didn't want anything to do with her sexually. I also told him that I felt like the asshole because my mood went south because of it. He said it was all the excitement and that he couldn't help himself. I wouldn't want him to take one for the team for me, but I might do it for him. I just can't for her and I think it is because of the feelings that I think they have for each other. They both deny it, but I am not stupid. When we see them, they are glued at the hip. I even caught them cuddling on my couch when I came in from smoking. They said it was a joke for me and I asked how it could be a joke on me when I wasn't even in the room? I only came back in because I forgot my lighter so its not like they were expecting me to come back in so soon. I was not a happy camper and couldn't see why they had to hide it. I kinda feel like I have to a private eye, which makes me not enjoy anything. Her husband says he has no problem with what is going on. I am hoping it is just because of the newness and not deeper feelings. I am not a prude, I just want to take things slow. I don't know what rules are the norm, but I think I am against kissing. Honestly, I thought that their interactions with each other was the norm and I did start to think that I am not meant to be a swinger. I am glad to have my feelings actually heard. I finally feel like I have a valid claim. When we first got on Swing Lifestyle, I thought my biggest problem was going to be finding someone that would like us.

11-13-2008, 04:00 PM	#12 (permalink)
jonelle514 Registered Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 6 Location: Pensacola Status: couple	Re: His actions with the female make me uncomfortable... I want to be a swinger, I guess I had different expectations. I wanted to be with a female, then have same room sex and MAYBE a full swap. I wanted to ease into it. When we talked about the experience with this couple I told him that I like to know what is going on. I want to be prepared for what is going to happen so I can process it and when he made out with her, jumped in when I was playing with her, got a bj from her and then was rubbing on her while she was having sex with her husband I was upset because it was something I wasn't prepared for. I was strictly under the impression that he didn't want anything to do with her sexually. I also told him that I felt like the asshole because my mood went south because of it. He said it was all the excitement and that he couldn't help himself. I wouldn't want him to take one for the team for me, but I might do it for him. I just can't for her and I think it is because of the feelings that I think they have for each other. They both deny it, but I am not stupid. When we see them, they are glued at the hip. I even caught them cuddling on my couch when I came in from smoking. They said it was a joke for me and I asked how it could be a joke on me when I wasn't even in the room? I only came back in because I forgot my lighter so its not like they were expecting me to come back in so soon. I was not a happy camper and couldn't see why they had to hide it. I kinda feel like I have to a private eye, which makes me not enjoy anything. Her husband says he has no problem with what is going on. I am hoping it is just because of the newness and not deeper feelings. I am not a prude, I just want to take things slow. I don't know what rules are the norm, but I think I am against kissing. Honestly, I thought that their interactions with each other was the norm and I did start to think that I am not meant to be a swinger. I am glad to have my feelings actually heard. I finally feel like I have a valid claim. When we first got on Swing Lifestyle, I thought my biggest problem was going to be finding someone that would like us.