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Originally Posted by jonelle514  I am scared about the whole thing. My husband and the wife talk on the phone every day and then they chat all night all long on the messenger. When we see them, he becomes touchy and he is not a touchy person. They flirt constantly and they have even become jealous of other people. For instance, he was chatting with another girl on the messenger not flirting or anything, just talking and the wife got upset. Now the wife is going to meet some guy she knew in high school and says it is the one guy she always wanted to do, but never did. My husband got upset. When I am around them, I feel like the 3rd wheel. |
These are some huge red flags, and I'm sure others will chime in and agree. One of our rules is that she gets the women's phone numbers and screen names, and he gets the guy's. This helps to avoid some problems. In your case it sounds like there is an emotional bond forming, which is not how this (swinging) is supposed to work. You should talk to your husband about your feelings, the fact that you're scared (and rightfully so), and tell him that you want to stop until you can both get all of this sorted out. The rules you established were clearly not firm enough, and that is something you need to re-visit before doing anything else. If he is not going to respect the rules you both set, this is not going to work out well. Good luck!
