[LikeMinds321]

Meeting all four guys in one weekend sounds like a very full weekend. We'd never put that much on one weekend because it'd be too much to handle. We'd limit it to two new people on different days because we're always open to play on the first meet if all goes well and we only have enough energy for two romps in one weekend.

It sounds like you're looking for only one guy, why limit it to only one new guy? I would think it would be possible for meet a couple of single men who could work out. You'd also up your chance of playing more with single men if you have a few regulars on your list.

It sounds like a couple are not good candidates, so why meet them?

As BiloxiCouple said, we'd approach single men like the couples we approach. If we hit it off and like the people we meet, we play on that first meet if everyone is open to it - we like to take advantage of the moment since matching times to meet can sometimes be hard. Or, we set up a date to meet later because we don't have the time to do so on the first meet, but we all know we're up for playing.

If we don't click on that first meet we close the meet with a thank you and "we'll be in touch" and the next day we send an e-mail saying we don't feel there was enough compatibilty (or some such thing). If the other couple/single said at the meet that they wanted to play with us - and we didn't - we'd tell them we didn't feel ready to do so but would let them know if we did. Then we'd probably let it fade or write them and tell them we were not interested. But we've not had to do this. This situation hasn't come up for us yet.

I wouldn't contact other swinger friends asking for their advice on whether we should play/meet another swinger. Who they like doesn't mean we'd like too. Ultimately, we make our choices based on how we feel about people, not how others feel about them.

Let us know how things go.

Good luck!

LM