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GoldenEars · 11-08-2008, 12:46 PM

Greetings All,

Been reading the site for a while and wanted to pose a question. I've searched the Forum for this topic without success. Forgive me if this has been covered before.

First, my wife and I have been having the "conversation" recently. Much to my surprise she was the one who initiated it. She's been running hot-n-cold on the idea for a while. It's fun to think about but were not sure if the reality is right for us. So,.. we thought we might go to an off-premises club or a local meet-n-greet. She's curious about the lifestyle and likes the "idea" of playing with another woman or couple. Or possibly a MFM if the right situation arose. But the idea of a house-party or on-site club really intimidates her to the point of turning her off. I on the other hand, would love to explore the lifestyle in any capacity. Soft to wild I'm open to just about anything as long as she is comfortable and turned on. If the conversation doesn't lead to anything, I'm just happy to talk about it.

So,... I was assigned the task of researching groups in our area. There are several house parties and hotel events in the region but from the web site descriptions they all seem pretty intimidating for an introduction. There is however — a popular off-premises club in our area that I'd like to contact for an invitation. I'm guessing that would be the least intimidating way to dip our toes in the water, meet some folks and feel the atmosphere without expectation. We'd like to check it out sometime in the near future.

Bot of us have high-profile careers in our respective occupations. Obviously discretion is a concern for everyone in the lifestyle. But in our case it's a particular concern. We both have recognizable names. We live in a city, but it's a small town if you know what I mean. So my question; Is it common or appropriate to use an alias when contacting a club? I know the lifestyle concept is all about honesty and openness. And we are as honest as we are cautious. It would feel strange to introduce ourselves with other names,.. but with all of our anxieties this is just another layer of concern.

Have others struggled with this. I'm sorry if this seems like a silly question, but we're "babes in the woods," but I'm a firm believer that there is no such thing as a stupid question.

Thanks for reading.

11-08-2008, 12:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
GoldenEars Registered User Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 2 Location: MA Status: Couple	Is it common or appropriate to use an alias when contacting a club? Greetings All, Been reading the site for a while and wanted to pose a question. I've searched the Forum for this topic without success. Forgive me if this has been covered before. First, my wife and I have been having the "conversation" recently. Much to my surprise she was the one who initiated it. She's been running hot-n-cold on the idea for a while. It's fun to think about but were not sure if the reality is right for us. So,.. we thought we might go to an off-premises club or a local meet-n-greet. She's curious about the lifestyle and likes the "idea" of playing with another woman or couple. Or possibly a MFM if the right situation arose. But the idea of a house-party or on-site club really intimidates her to the point of turning her off. I on the other hand, would love to explore the lifestyle in any capacity. Soft to wild I'm open to just about anything as long as she is comfortable and turned on. If the conversation doesn't lead to anything, I'm just happy to talk about it. So,... I was assigned the task of researching groups in our area. There are several house parties and hotel events in the region but from the web site descriptions they all seem pretty intimidating for an introduction. There is however — a popular off-premises club in our area that I'd like to contact for an invitation. I'm guessing that would be the least intimidating way to dip our toes in the water, meet some folks and feel the atmosphere without expectation. We'd like to check it out sometime in the near future. Bot of us have high-profile careers in our respective occupations. Obviously discretion is a concern for everyone in the lifestyle. But in our case it's a particular concern. We both have recognizable names. We live in a city, but it's a small town if you know what I mean. So my question; Is it common or appropriate to use an alias when contacting a club? I know the lifestyle concept is all about honesty and openness. And we are as honest as we are cautious. It would feel strange to introduce ourselves with other names,.. but with all of our anxieties this is just another layer of concern. Have others struggled with this. I'm sorry if this seems like a silly question, but we're "babes in the woods," but I'm a firm believer that there is no such thing as a stupid question. Thanks for reading.