 Re: Trying to talk my wife into swinging
No, that's ok, I wasn't offended. Just don't assume that in the case of your wife, or others, that the fantasies are there but there's something holding her back. It could be any number of factors that have contributed to a lack of sexual desire.
As well, pushing too hard to find those fantasies could scare her off, instead of relaxing her to the point where she's comfortable sharing. If she sees your no doubt honest efforts to establish better communication as a sort of criticism, as in, "Why can't you tell me your fantasies? What's wrong with you?" I'm not implying that's what you've actually said, but that might be what she thinks she's hearing. If she feels that you're not happy with the sexual relationship that the two of you share, a misreading of your efforts could decrease her sexual self-esteem and lead to a downward spiral.
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