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celtic239 · 11-02-2008, 12:03 AM

midnight - about three years ago my wife told me that she would be perfectly happy if she never had sex again. I for one was not amused. We are both in our fifty's. I hit the internet hard and became way too familar with female sexual dysfuntion websites. After several months of research I typed a letter to my wife and read it to her. In it I told her how much I loved her and how I believed that her having a fulfilling sex life was important. I stated that her lack of desire could be due to (a) a chemical/hormonal imbalance and that she could be a candidate for HRT, (b) that her lack of interest in sex could be because of her lack of wanting to have sex with me and I told her that she could take on a lover and I wouldn't be jealous and (c) that we go to a clothing optional resort to try to expand our sexual boundaries.
Bottom line is that we have been to Desires three times and just visited our first swingers clob. We have not swung but then again my original intention was to get the spice back into our lives. Unfortunately for me the thought of the Lifestyle does appeal to me and for some strange reason MFM is a fantasy that, I for one, would love to have with the Mrs. She on the other hand, after three years and thousands of dollars spent on vacations and almost every Black Lace book ever written, still won't even tell me what her fantasies are. I should add that we have been married for almost 28 years.
The only advice I can give you is to treat her with respect and dignity, be prepared to take a few more cold showers than you would expect and "give time time".

11-02-2008, 12:03 AM	#15 (permalink)
celtic239 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 508 Location: new york	Re: Trying to talk my wife into swinging midnight - about three years ago my wife told me that she would be perfectly happy if she never had sex again. I for one was not amused. We are both in our fifty's. I hit the internet hard and became way too familar with female sexual dysfuntion websites. After several months of research I typed a letter to my wife and read it to her. In it I told her how much I loved her and how I believed that her having a fulfilling sex life was important. I stated that her lack of desire could be due to (a) a chemical/hormonal imbalance and that she could be a candidate for HRT, (b) that her lack of interest in sex could be because of her lack of wanting to have sex with me and I told her that she could take on a lover and I wouldn't be jealous and (c) that we go to a clothing optional resort to try to expand our sexual boundaries. Bottom line is that we have been to Desires three times and just visited our first swingers clob. We have not swung but then again my original intention was to get the spice back into our lives. Unfortunately for me the thought of the Lifestyle does appeal to me and for some strange reason MFM is a fantasy that, I for one, would love to have with the Mrs. She on the other hand, after three years and thousands of dollars spent on vacations and almost every Black Lace book ever written, still won't even tell me what her fantasies are. I should add that we have been married for almost 28 years. The only advice I can give you is to treat her with respect and dignity, be prepared to take a few more cold showers than you would expect and "give time time".