Swinging is, for couples, a partnership between BOTH people.
What do I mean by that, well, if BOTH parties are willing,m its all good, If both parties are honest with each other, its all good, and if they TALK about what they want, what they feel, or felt during whatever activity they pursue, then Its all good..
On the other hand, if one partner wants to do something, try something and the other isnt into it, or flat out doesnt want to.. its GAME OVER.. Both people need to be on the same page at all times.
Swinging by AMBUSH, is a perfect receipe for destruction.
Now as far as bringing a spouse to the idea of swinging, it can be as simple as discussing thier fantasies. Most people harbor fantasies that involve faceless other people, as in multiple people. Ask Any guy, and they will tell you they have all had a moment or two where the idea of being with 2, 3, or however many more women at the same time appealed to him.. And women, according to studies, have the same in reverse, meaning entertaining multiple men.. perhaps at the same time, or one after the other..
Discussing your fatnasies as a couple can be cathardic, in that even though you have been with that person for many years, you may learn things you never knew.. and they can learn things they never knew about you..
Jeez, I didnt know you were always wanted to have sex at the top of a lighthouse...
So, our suggestion would be to start there.. once you get her to open up about what SHE wants.. then see where that leads..
For more ideas you can always take a look at our blog..
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