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Originally Posted by arvcpl  Usually if we come across a profile we both like we will send a little introductory message and say that we both saw their profile and thought it interested us and we often point out a thing or two that specifically caught our eye and then we invite them to take a look at our profile and let us know either way if they are interested or not. We usually state that if they are interested that we can talk more and see where things go. We then often ask for a simple 'thanks but no thanks' if they are not interested.
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This sounds about like what we send when we contact profiles that interest us. However, I don't ask for a "not interested" email, I just assume if we don't hear back they aren't interested (or like occasionally happens to us, they got busy and forgot to write us back). My contact emails usually say something to the effect of "we are interested in meeting you. Take a look at our profile and if you are interested as well, we can set up a meeting" or something like that. We aren't into the back and forth emailing, we'd just as soon meet and get it over with. Which is probably why we prefer just meeting couples at clubs/socials over doing the email thing and then meeting.
Our best luck has actually been with using the "who's attending" list on the clubs section at Swing Lifestyle. This allows you to see who's attending the next social (or at least who's planning to) and we then contact those we are interested in prior to the social and say hello and that we look forward to meeting them. This establishes interest and makes it easier for everyone to go up and introduce each other at the actual party.
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Originally Posted by good times We have found that it doesn't really matter what one says in the initial email. If a couple finds you hot, they will reply back with interest, if not, they won't, or will send a no thanks.
I used to think what was said in the initial email was important, but then one day I realized I generally only criticized lame emails if we wouldn't have been interested anyway. The fact is, we have gotten some emails that said nothing more than "Hi there", that we pursued because we looked at their profile and were interested. |
Good point. That said, too often I've found that when we've responded to an idiotic email because we thought their profile was hot, usually it turns out that our first instinct in response to their email (before looking at their profile) proves true.