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I/We arrived at where we were because of me. As I’m sure that my wife will read this post, I need to get this off my chest. She has heard it before, but reading it might be different. Over the years, I have met women that I cared about, and some that I loved. We didn’t have sexual relationships, but that did not dilute the feelings that I had for them. I got frustrated with the fact that I couldn’t acknowledge the fact that I cared for someone just because they were female. Society forbade that caring. When I finally laid things out, my lovely wife understood. She was and is still threatened by it, but she shouldn’t be. But that is our challenge.

I found polyamory long before we found swinging. It wasn’t about sex, it was about caring! Love! There is a woman in our life that I love, but I also know for many reasons that there will never be more than my caring, loving, and hoping the best for her. She has her own challenges and her own path to take. And clearly, that path does not lead to a joining of her life with ours.

Yes, there is a big difference in my mind between polygamy, and polyamory. Polygamy is culturally based, the other is emotionally based. Yes, the lady in question leaves a gap in my heart because of the many years that I have known her and the fact that I know it was never meant to be in this life. Maybe next time it will be better.

There has to be strength in your core relationship. Then you have to accept the life choices of those that come into your life. And you have to try to make sure that their choices don’t drag you down. Some times, the other people in your life were not of your choosing.

S