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Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan  Maybe I'm just too cynical for my own good... but does anyone else think that maybe some of the people who are getting into Polyamorous relationships / Swingers / or whatever - are doing so because it's become "trendy" to be non-monogamous??
Not saying that there aren't polyamorous people out there - I've known plenty of them over the years and think it's a wonderful thing.
But I've seen so many people who've gotten into it for the wrong reasons.
Most often, I see people trying to "fix" their broken relationships by adding more partners. Or I see people who find that their relationship isn't working out the way they'd hoped - so instead of breaking up with their first relationship... they simply start a new one and call themselves polyamorous. |
I completely understand what you mean by it being trendy. When I was in college, it was the new rage to be a bi woman. All of a sudden, nearly every girl on my dorm floor were "bi". Now, do I really believe that every one of those girls still consider themselves bi? I'd be willing to bet that half of them were following the trend, and have gone on to marry men and never be with a woman again.
I think it could be the same with poly. It's an edgy and non-mainstream, and I think a lot of people want to jump on the bandwagon...but without really understanding what it means to be poly. Since I've never been in a poly relationship, I could be wrong, but it seems like you would only be poly if you really, really wanted to. The thought of coordinating the ideas and feelings of 3 people instead of 2 seems like a huge undertaking.
Pepper