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**cplnuswing** · 10-26-2008, 02:15 PM

First, make sure you and he both have realistic expectations of what swinging is so when you communicate about it, you are talking about something is real, and not something hypothetical. Then just verbally explore what each believes may be good, bad, or neutral about it for each of you and more importantly for your marriage. Getting good information will probably do more to allay his fears than anything.

An in-depth conversation doesn't have to happen all at once, and doesn't have to happen today, but it must happen. After some honest talk about it, you'll both just have to evaluate whether it's right for you to even continue talking about it and maybe eventually give it a try.

There isn't any magic way of presenting it that will result in a yes, and even after having good communication based on sound information the answer may very well still be no, but at least you will know that the subject got a serious discussion, just like any other serious decision than can affect your relationship should.

10-26-2008, 02:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
cplnuswing Lifestyle Mentor Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,372 Location: Georgia Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:gawildstreak	Re: I'm interested, hubby maybe not.... First, make sure you and he both have realistic expectations of what swinging is so when you communicate about it, you are talking about something is real, and not something hypothetical. Then just verbally explore what each believes may be good, bad, or neutral about it for each of you and more importantly for your marriage. Getting good information will probably do more to allay his fears than anything. An in-depth conversation doesn't have to happen all at once, and doesn't have to happen today, but it must happen. After some honest talk about it, you'll both just have to evaluate whether it's right for you to even continue talking about it and maybe eventually give it a try. There isn't any magic way of presenting it that will result in a yes, and even after having good communication based on sound information the answer may very well still be no, but at least you will know that the subject got a serious discussion, just like any other serious decision than can affect your relationship should.