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Originally Posted by Unregistered 
I went out of the room to get a bottle of water and the door locked behind me. Now they were the only two in the room. After about 30 minutes and no way to get back in there, I knocked loudly on the door and he opened it. I kicked him out and said party is over get out now!
How would others have handled it?
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It sounds like you knew immediately that the door locked behind you. The guy probably didn't know that and figured you could get back in. How was he and your wife to know that you couldn't get back in? Since he opened the door immediately after you began knocking, he did respond appropriately. You led them to think you wanted to leave them alone for 30 minutes. That was the mistake. You gave yourself 30 minutes to reach boiling point and now you blame the guy when I think you're mad at yourself more than anything.
I think you're being too hard on this single guy and too hard on yourself. Look at it as a situation that could have been handled differently and learn from it. You can enjoy single guys in the future and have a better outcome with just a few simple guidelines set in place. Communicate to the other male - and your wife - if you want to be more involved in play. Don't let a guy push you aside. And don't leave your wife alone with a guy you aren't comfortable with, as you did this time. These changes can make a big difference in how the play goes.
We all have play situations where we can look back and say we fucked up a little and could have handled things differently. Don't let this experience bog you down or fester inside.
Welcome to the Board, by the way. I hope you will register so that you can reply to this thread.
LM