Accentuate the positive. As long as you aren't trying to bill yourself as "Mr. Big Swinging Dick", you'll be able to get a bite or two. And who knows, you may discover that your lady for the evening is a bit more stimulating than a computer screen.
The first time that I visited a swingers club in Germany, I was far too nervous to perform. But I played my part. The next time that I visited, I was less nervous
and my willingness to give pleasure was well received and commented upon. So, I was able to enjoy myself thrice, as well as enjoy the attentions of 4 women. Always look for the brighter side.