[cplnuswing]

No, you're not wasting your time, but it may take a little more time, if that makes any sense. There are a lot of swingers out there in all shapes, sizes, etc. and they aren't all looking for the same thing. Full swap intercourse may be the most common, but it certainly isn't the only scenario people are interested in.

Be honest and upfront about what you offer to a potential playmate, and as others have said you will probably be surprised at the results. Sure, your set of circumstances might not be what some are looking for, but they might not be looking for someone with your color eyes, hair, or whatever either. Why someone is or isn't interested in playing doesn't change that the chemistry just isn't there, but that doesn't mean you can't have an enjoyable time getting out there searching for the combination that does have the chemistry. Sooner or later, you'll find it and the fun you had along the way looking for it certainly won't be a waste of time.