[Alura]

With your divergent views, I see little hope for y'all to work out a compromise.

Although harder to find, one thing y'all might consider is finding a couple with little or no experience outside their marriage. Y'all could then make an arrangement not to play with other couples, not for emotional reasons like polyamory, but simply to lessen your exposure to STDs.

Two of our playcouples were folks who had married right out of high school and had had NO other experiences for over twenty years. They were taking a much greater chance with us than we with them. In the case of one couple we were the second sex partner for each of them. We played with both couples for several years and had great fun with both, so it's not as boring as one might imagine.

One nice benefit of the two friendships was that we could play without condoms since the women were either on the pill or "fixed." One of the women just loved the "wicked feeling" (as she put it) of having sperm from two men in her pussy at the same time. The men liked having two women who'd happily drink their come.

In theory, the four of you could add other similarly safe couples as they could be found. The safety aspect would remain sound as long as your friends stayed within the group sexually.

Of course, there is always the possibility of being lied to. Y'all would have to use your judgement to determine their veracity.

STD tests prior to play would add some safety.

Of course, this idea would severely restrict your opportunities. Playmates would be much harder to find but with your fear, which is sure to ruin any fun, I don't see any other possibility except to keep yourselves only with each other.

Mr. Alura