[DBL D]

Hi summers30s,

I know where you are coming from. You have a nice looking sexy wife that, in private, may have expressed certain fantasies of hers. It's very difficult to translate those things to a real life encounter. She says she did the things you mentioned; but you don't really know because you weren't there. She may have been trying to please you by saying that she did go ahead with them. Have you had any confirmation from her partners that she did them and what her demeaner was?

When we started down this bouncy road, I was the one who "pushed" her to realign her boundaries of what was ok. The problem for us was that she came to feel that I was not staying connected with her and putting too much pressure on her. WE HAD TO STOP...and as of this writing don't know when we'll try again to play with others.

I think you should back off and find out how YOU really feel about the lifestyle. What are your goals? Your lady should never feel that you are too into it, at least until she finds what the fun is really all about. I felt that expressing enthusiasm was a good thing and would show her what it was all about. It didn't work out that way and it has been a tough thing for me to face that I changed our relationship forever and will probably never play again. The memories are nice. I had hoped we could continue, but my attitude and the pressure I placed on the whole deal has pretty much ruined it for us.

If you don't want that to happen, I would back off and let her decide when you can do something in the future.

Your wanting to see her in "action" seems onesided. Don't you have a desire for other ladies? This just sounds too familiar for me to have a positive outcome, but I hope for the best for you two.

Remember to place each other first, even though you will be with different people.

Male D