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mick2150 · 09-21-2008, 07:30 PM

Julie and the computer's s/ware keep encouraging me to post more often ..... So, here (at last did Julie say?) is a topic on which I do have some personal thoughts.

I really do not think we are seeing a trendy 'trend' towards Poly - and in context, I am talking about Polyamory, not the Polygamy, Polyandary etc. variations. Let's be clear here ... polyamory meaning more than one love - in all it's multitudes of flavours & variations ....

What we are seeing is that in the past few decades, there has been a movement, not necessarily a 'trendy' trend, towards an openness and an acceptance of individual rights, and in the consumer world much more of an acceptance that even though the consumer is not always 'right' he/she has a right to challenge the honesty of the seller/marketer - in other words, if it doesn't work, one has a right to take it back and get a refund .... this has meant that 'open honesty' in trading, has perculated to the surface. (I am a marketing/communications guy)

Now take this thought through to relationships; there IS a real 'trend' to more open and much more thorough communication. Go onto any number of web groups that focus on relationships, and whenever anyone asks for help the usual advice is to be open and communicate.

Now that marriage/divorce is openly acknowledged to be over 50% - just the justifyable #'s!! - what I think has got peoples attention is that there just has to be be some alternative ways to 'manage' relationships. Both the swingers & polys have a common thread with respect to the cheat - it just isn't part of the lifestyle. This isn't being trendy .... it is waking up to the fact that some people have more libido than others; that realtionships can be more or less intimate & physical; and that providing we have all learnt to give ourselves 'permission' to share our feelings & thoughts with our partners - and our partners understand our being honest - & nobody is left out & gets hurt - then life can move forward. (4 levels of HAI workshops helped me a great deal!)

What is true, is that poly is now in the main stream media & not always taking a hit - far from it, some of the 'big' media names are actually assigning seasoned journalists to the subject & the resulting articles are coming across as balanced and non-biase, the conclusion oten being that the concept of poly is, for some, well worth consideration.

Poly is almost certainly NOT for the majority - at least not in our life times; however, I will put money on the idea that it, & it's many variations, will become increasingly more main strean & accepted - at least in the more liberal world.

(There Julie, you got your wish!)

M.

09-21-2008, 07:30 PM	#18 (permalink)
mick2150 Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 12 Location: Mississauga, Ontario. Status: Single Male	Re: Polyamory - a passing fancy or a new trend? Julie and the computer's s/ware keep encouraging me to post more often ..... So, here (at last did Julie say?) is a topic on which I do have some personal thoughts. I really do not think we are seeing a trendy 'trend' towards Poly - and in context, I am talking about Polyamory, not the Polygamy, Polyandary etc. variations. Let's be clear here ... polyamory meaning more than one love - in all it's multitudes of flavours & variations .... What we are seeing is that in the past few decades, there has been a movement, not necessarily a 'trendy' trend, towards an openness and an acceptance of individual rights, and in the consumer world much more of an acceptance that even though the consumer is not always 'right' he/she has a right to challenge the honesty of the seller/marketer - in other words, if it doesn't work, one has a right to take it back and get a refund .... this has meant that 'open honesty' in trading, has perculated to the surface. (I am a marketing/communications guy) Now take this thought through to relationships; there IS a real 'trend' to more open and much more thorough communication. Go onto any number of web groups that focus on relationships, and whenever anyone asks for help the usual advice is to be open and communicate. Now that marriage/divorce is openly acknowledged to be over 50% - just the justifyable #'s!! - what I think has got peoples attention is that there just has to be be some alternative ways to 'manage' relationships. Both the swingers & polys have a common thread with respect to the cheat - it just isn't part of the lifestyle. This isn't being trendy .... it is waking up to the fact that some people have more libido than others; that realtionships can be more or less intimate & physical; and that providing we have all learnt to give ourselves 'permission' to share our feelings & thoughts with our partners - and our partners understand our being honest - & nobody is left out & gets hurt - then life can move forward. (4 levels of HAI workshops helped me a great deal!) What is true, is that poly is now in the main stream media & not always taking a hit - far from it, some of the 'big' media names are actually assigning seasoned journalists to the subject & the resulting articles are coming across as balanced and non-biase, the conclusion oten being that the concept of poly is, for some, well worth consideration. Poly is almost certainly NOT for the majority - at least not in our life times; however, I will put money on the idea that it, & it's many variations, will become increasingly more main strean & accepted - at least in the more liberal world. (There Julie, you got your wish!) M.