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Polyamory has been around just about as long as swing. They both go back further than most in the vanilla world would like to admit. The big question is; How much alike are they? I have been doing research on this for the past year, to understand my own emersion into the poly world. I also write for several lifestyle sites. There seems to be a few catalysts for entering this wing of the lifestyle. One and the most used, is new couples entering the lifestyle. In short they find this to be the best crossover from the vanilla world. It is safe on the surface it almost seems socially normal. This does have some success for them, however I did find many couples just met with some dissappointment. Not only in the poly world but in the swing world and their marriages as well. Another catalyst seems to be what I call swinger burn out. Those swinging couples that have done it all. Now with their age and or over indulgence, they find comfort in something with more depth. Then there are those who have just out of circumstance fallen into this. They have had success living in the alternate lifestyle world. Just by meeting the right person or persons have drifted into this side of alternative lifestyles. This is the group that meets with the most success. The poly relationship take more work than most swingers or newbies are willing to put into any relationship, other than their own marriages. Poly can be akin to being married all over again, with even more complicated twists. You think marriage is work try to multiply that times three or four. In the artical I am writing I do go more into these catalysts, downsides, definitions and history. Once it is done and published I will post it on this site.