Sam, when I first read this. One eye went to the left and one eye went to the right. It just had me looking at this all walleyed or something. I just couldn't put the two together. After listening for a while to others, I'm O.K. now. I think....
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Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan  Maybe I'm just too cynical for my own good... but does anyone else think that maybe some of the people who are getting into Polyamorous relationships / Swingers / or whatever - are doing so because it's become "trendy" to be non-monogamous?? |
No, I don't think its trendy. I think more people are exposed to this in the media. That leaves me to believe more people try this and fail because like bell bottoms the trend came and went. For us who do live some sort of alternative lifestyle and are open about it, planning on doing this till the end of our days because it is US. I think we are in small numbers. We are going to see more people taking a look to see if the shoe fits. But until Wall mart starts a club for swingers it not trendy.
This is where I got walleyed
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Not saying that there aren't polyamorous people out there - I've known plenty of them over the years and think it's a wonderful thing.
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What do you mean by plenty ? I know very few..... There again, What we see on the INTERNET compared to real people we know personally. It seems like a small circle to me. We see regulars like ourselves now. And many come and go. We dont know what their reasons are, but ideally I would like to think they tried it and found out it wasnt for them. Or even want to do this just occasionally... Not a failed relationship every time.
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But I've seen so many people who've gotten into it for the wrong reasons.
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There again on a personal level, I only know of a few
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Most often, I see people trying to "fix" their broken relationships by adding more partners. Or I see people who find that their relationship isn't working out the way they'd hoped - so instead of breaking up with their first relationship... they simply start a new one and call themselves polyamorous
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. Now this is something that makes me think it must be a single male situation I don't see outside of our married alternative relationship. I don't hear the singles we play with seeing this this way. I will ask them now.... But still, are you hooking up with the majority of people in failing relationships ?
It makes me think either,
Where the hell are you partying at ?.
Or,
Am I the one missing this, with blinders on ?