[WesternSwing]

I think there are true swingers, true polyamorists, those that use swinging or polyamory as an attempt to fix a relationship, and those that use them as an excuse to screw around and everywhere in between.

I in now way think that either is a passing fancy or a new trend. However I do see many 20-somethings that live on the fringe attending private "Naughty Back to School Parties", "Naughty Halloween Parties" and many other themes. These are the ones that seem to be dabbling without really venturing in. From what I see these "wild" parties are a passing fancy with the majority of them, though I think some will take it further with open and honest non-monogamous relationships in the future.

Another thing I have seen within the poly community is using polyamory to justify swinging; meaning those that do so need to justify sex with anyone with the idea of being "in love" with them. I believe this because of the short-term nature of many of these relationships. It seems they have a different secondary every few months. These folks can give real polyamorists a bad name and do more harm than good to the general public's view of polyamory AND swinging. What they are doing is truly swinging but they won't call it that and use polyamory to justify their actions.

But in the end, whatever gets you through the night, is alright. As long as no one else gets hurt in the process. I'm not judging, just observing.

Mr. WS