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Chicup · 09-15-2008, 04:42 PM

For some people poly seems to be an excuse to feel better about having multiple lovers.

Person 1: So you have 3 boyfriends you are having sex with who know about each other?
Person 2: Well I'm poly.

No Person 2 isn't poly person 2 is a slut. Now thats ok with me, I happen to like sluts, but person 2 doesn't want to be thought of as 'slutty' so you see, shes poly.

Then there is this example. Husband and wife bring in another woman into the mix, usually younger, normally on a bad rebound. Husband gets two women which is a pretty natural desire, I'm not sure what the woman gets out of it but for a lot this seems to work, but its temporary. Sooner or later the 2nd find someone to make her a 1st and shes history. The concept of primaries and secondaries to me makes this pseudo poly, its poly of opportunity, but its not an equal love or equal partnership.

I think true poly, is as rare as its ever been. Its really quite a beautiful concept on paper, but the reality is most can't succeed with it long term.

09-15-2008, 04:42 PM	#12 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,093 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: Polyamory - a passing fancy or a new trend? For some people poly seems to be an excuse to feel better about having multiple lovers. Person 1: So you have 3 boyfriends you are having sex with who know about each other? Person 2: Well I'm poly. No Person 2 isn't poly person 2 is a slut. Now thats ok with me, I happen to like sluts, but person 2 doesn't want to be thought of as 'slutty' so you see, shes poly. Then there is this example. Husband and wife bring in another woman into the mix, usually younger, normally on a bad rebound. Husband gets two women which is a pretty natural desire, I'm not sure what the woman gets out of it but for a lot this seems to work, but its temporary. Sooner or later the 2nd find someone to make her a 1st and shes history. The concept of primaries and secondaries to me makes this pseudo poly, its poly of opportunity, but its not an equal love or equal partnership. I think true poly, is as rare as its ever been. Its really quite a beautiful concept on paper, but the reality is most can't succeed with it long term.