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Originally Posted by mixtupcpl  Not bi, so am not fit to answer, but just wanted to say great thread Dooode. This is a very interesting discussion.
I've always felt that if same sex attraction the full way is a biological reality (I believe in nature there), then something that falls in between simply must also be a reality. Nature tends to operate in shades of grey.
I suspect that nurture awakens something that was there, in other words, and in someone for whom there really is NO appeal (ie - a gay person with opposite sex, or a straight person same sex), no amount of exposure will somehow "convert" them. So I guess for bi what seems most logical to me is that it takes a bit of nature and a dash of nurture. |
I'm inclined to agree with you here, Mixupcpl. I think the bold-faced portion of your post describes me best. I don't recall ever specifically being sexually drawn to women, though I'd always thought them attractive. It wasn't until last year at a meet and greet where I found myself sexually attracted to another woman--totally threw me for a loop!
I'm still on the bicurious side of the fence, as I've done most everything but give another woman oral. Why? Because I won't know for sure whether I'll like it or be any good at it until I try it. And I would so hate to be a disappointment to anyone. I've even gotten up the nerve to try it a couple times, but my luck being what it is, something happened to prevent it from happening.
So I think that it's in my nature to be curious (and possibly even bi), and by nuturing that curiosity I can find out what side of the fence I'm really on.
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