[jjtrindc]

Lot's of interesting things in your post from our perspective. First off, you have a great attitude to say that you are ready to chalk this up as a good first experience. Not every situation results in a long-term thing so it's good to have a positive attitude about the fun that you do have.

As to whether they are "baiting" you is a tough one to answer. Perhaps she is playing the "couple" part so that her husband can hook up with more women. Perhaps there is some sort of drama happening between them. Perhaps she isn't into you. Or, perhaps, you've simply had bad timing. Only way to truly find out is to only hook up with them as a couple the next couple of meetings. Then, perhaps, MFM's are a good alternative. Course, the same goes for you in terms of proposing MFM's with them in the meantime.

We noted that you felt that this experience and reading this boards has made the "friends first" aspect less appealing. We would argue a bit the opposite. We totally respect couples out their to have fun and make booty calls, even though that's not our approach. But if you are worried about being baited or used, then it seems that getting to know couples a bit before you get naked is the best way to try to prevent that from happening.

As for the text message, we could see how that could be misinterpreted. The hubby of us has a bit of a quick wit and sometimes funny sarcastic, which can easily be misconstrued over text messages or IM's...so he really has to check himself.

Anyway...you overall sound like a positive couple which is great. Keep having fun!