Thanks again everyone.
The biggest problem, I think, is that my wife has actually become friends with this girl. We even have kids the same age so my wife and her get together and just hang out without any play. We have went out with them once that didn't result in play. The first 2 times it was only soft swap. The first time I was more into it because it was new and the excitement was there. Now I do it because if I hinted that I wasn't interested, my wife is going to be super pissed. She is really in to the girl.
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Originally Posted by fun4ds I'm just curious.
Are you actually turning down women with nicer asses or at least women that do turn you on sexually, because your wife is so "into" this couple for now ?
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No, we haven't turned down any couples, we just haven't found any others that we have clicked with. This is the only couple we have played with.
And no, I also don't think they are holding me back from pursuing new playmates.
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Originally Posted by iapr There is something about this paragraph that really troubles me. Most problems in swinging are not from other people or from swinging per se but rather from dynamics from within the couple. Taking one for the team should never be an issue and it should never be a negotiation point. If one party does not want to play then there is no play and you move on..period.
That fact that she threw her willingness to take one for the team in your face is not a good sign at all. Taking one for the team should never be thought of as ammunition or something one does to garner favors to be cashed in at a later date.
The fact that she is harboring resentment and disappointment and holding it against you in this is also troubling. I fear there is more underlying problems here than some gal with no ass and those underlying problems are probably from within. Search for and address those issues and taking one for the team shall become a nonissue. |
You're right, it shouldn't be a negotation point and it shouldn't be ammunition to be cashed in at a later date...but, we both like swinging, a lot, and it has made our sex life 10,000x better. There is a lot more affection between us.
As far as the additional underlying problems, I'm not being sarcastic at all (seriously) when I say that I appreciate your analytical skills, but I don't really think that's it. I just think my wife really, really is turned on by this girl and I'm just simply not.
As far as planning on cashing it in later, I guess that's exactly what I've been doing. I just figure that if I am going to continue seeing this couple with her for her pleasure, when I find a nice looking girl I am attracted to, if the guy isn't a spitting image of Brad Pitt, I don't want them to be discounted immediately.