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Originally Posted by jid2008  By this time I am completely turned off. We all 4 played, and I barely touched her at all. |
How did this jump happen? If you're completely turned off, why did you go ahead with the play?
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Originally Posted by jid2008 Well, rather than going f/f and leaving me out of it (I absolutely DREAD it all day if I know we are going out with this couple), |
You've played with them twice, right? Was the first time full swap, then the second time soft swap since you "hardly touched her"?? From your statement about dreading it all day when you meet them, it sounds like there have been other encounters with them too that didn't result in a play session?
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Originally Posted by jid2008 I suggested, okay, maybe we should just get with couples that we are both attracted to...That's fine! But no, I'm still a dick and a jerk who cares about no one but himself. |
That's the only way to do it to be fair to both yourselves and the other couple. Both are interested, or you take a pass. That's especially true for the second time around. It's easy to fall into a situation with a new couple that doesn't go quite as well as hoped and in hindsight realize someone took one for the team and the better decision would have been just to take a pass, but when you go back again to the same couple and expect whatever wasn't there the first time to 100% be there this time, that's kinda unrealistic.
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Originally Posted by jid2008 What do I do? |
As others have said, probably best to stop swinging until you get to the heart of this problem and get it worked out. Things just aren't clicking between the two of you the way they should when it comes to swinging, and it's a dangerous game to keep playing if they aren't.