I do agree that while a persons maturity level is not measured by age alone as I at 18 was very mature both mentally and sexually. I knew what I wanted and would go after it with the self confidence of someone a lot older than me. My upbringing has alot to do with that.
However, I don't believe that a couple that is 18 should be swinging if they have been together for a short time. I don't think anyone in a relationship should start swinging with their partner until they've been in a commited relationship for at least two years. This is just my personal opinion and I am not very experienced in this lifestyle. I just tend to believe that the first year in most relationships/marriages is usually about lovey-doveyness between the couple and feeling out the others hygenie habits, sleep habits, political views, eccentricities etc and is most definately not a time to be bringing in others as you have enough going on as it is in your own coupledom. The second year I think is more about settling in and straightening out who you are as a couple together. Usually the "honeymoon" phase is leveling out and you can be more real with each other ( I don't know if you know what I mean but I can't explain it in words). Then I think if a couple feels more secure together and are interested in swinging, by all means go for it.
My husband and I have been together for five and a half years and we have weathered a lot in that time. We are now ready for a swingers lifestyle or we perceive that we are, three years ago I know that we would have broken up if we had even thought about attempting it. There were too many jealousy issues on our part etc.
Just to clarify, I am not against 18 year old couples just expressing my opinions.
J (the lady of the couple known as J&M)
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