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Originally Posted by jid2008 
She brings up that she was willing to get with a couple of couples that had unattractive men "for me," but those never happened any way. I suggested, okay, maybe we should just get with couples that we are both attracted to...That's fine! But no, I'm still a dick and a jerk who cares about no one but himself.
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There is something about this paragraph that really troubles me. Most problems in swinging are not from other people or from swinging per se but rather from dynamics from within the couple. Taking one for the team should never be an issue and it should never be a negotiation point. If one party does not want to play then there is no play and you move on..period.
That fact that she threw her willingness to take one for the team in your face is not a good sign at all. Taking one for the team should never be thought of as ammunition or something one does to garner favors to be cashed in at a later date.
The fact that she is harboring resentment and disappointment and holding it against you in this is also troubling. I fear there is more underlying problems here than some gal with no ass and those underlying problems are probably from within. Search for and address those issues and taking one for the team shall become a nonissue.