The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Are they team players? Or were they leading us on?

ShagUsThx · 09-06-2008, 02:04 PM

Hey guys and gals....

Well we met our first couple and things went well. I was attracted to the wife half and my wife was not initially attracted (he's cute but not ideal, she is 6' he's about 5'6") to him but his personality and intelligence won her over. So we met again and the first time it was FF play and same partner play. Then the next time it was hot tub kissing and touching among all, but when we brought it inside his wife said she was tired and wanted to go to bed. Which was understandable as they were going on a trip in the morning. The three of us decided we were fired up and his wife was fine with that, so we had an mfm. It was great fun for all three of us.

In between "hookups" we have gone to brunch and things trying to get to know them better.

So that brings us roughly up to present. We had talked about hooking up this weekend so I got a text today saying they were going to a b-day party and maybe after he would see if his wife was up for a booty call. (sounded good) I said great let us know, my wife is going to a family members bachelorette party but probably wont be late. I also mentioned that "mfm's are always fun though". I meant that he and his wife and I could mfm if my wife was not back yet, but he assumed I meant for him to come alone to be with me and my wife. He said he already got permission and would see us later!?!

This is my text back...

"Well I was actually speaking of the elusive (his wife) in case (my wife) was not home yet. Were getting worried you guys are not team players , that's what we are really looking for. :-)"

No response. I told the wife about the situation and she, like I, is inclined to just chalk the whole thing up to a nice first experience. Plus the more I read this board the less we want to focus on the "friends first" thing.

Im sure I already know what you will have to say, but I have been surprised by responses to other situations, what do ya think?

These dynamics are so interesting to me!

09-06-2008, 02:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
ShagUsThx Active Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 43 Location: Colorado Status: Couple	Are they team players? Or were they leading us on? Hey guys and gals.... Well we met our first couple and things went well. I was attracted to the wife half and my wife was not initially attracted (he's cute but not ideal, she is 6' he's about 5'6") to him but his personality and intelligence won her over. So we met again and the first time it was FF play and same partner play. Then the next time it was hot tub kissing and touching among all, but when we brought it inside his wife said she was tired and wanted to go to bed. Which was understandable as they were going on a trip in the morning. The three of us decided we were fired up and his wife was fine with that, so we had an mfm. It was great fun for all three of us. In between "hookups" we have gone to brunch and things trying to get to know them better. So that brings us roughly up to present. We had talked about hooking up this weekend so I got a text today saying they were going to a b-day party and maybe after he would see if his wife was up for a booty call. (sounded good) I said great let us know, my wife is going to a family members bachelorette party but probably wont be late. I also mentioned that "mfm's are always fun though". I meant that he and his wife and I could mfm if my wife was not back yet, but he assumed I meant for him to come alone to be with me and my wife. He said he already got permission and would see us later!?! This is my text back... "Well I was actually speaking of the elusive (his wife) in case (my wife) was not home yet. Were getting worried you guys are not team players , that's what we are really looking for. :-)" No response. I told the wife about the situation and she, like I, is inclined to just chalk the whole thing up to a nice first experience. Plus the more I read this board the less we want to focus on the "friends first" thing. Im sure I already know what you will have to say, but I have been surprised by responses to other situations, what do ya think? These dynamics are so interesting to me!