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Originally Posted by jid2008  the girls have decided they want to go....drumroll..FULL SWAP! Yay. Yuck. Any way, my wife blows up and decides I am a "jerk" and a "dickhead" and I "care about no one but myself" because I don't want to have sex with this girl.
She brings up that she was willing to get with a couple of couples that had unattractive men "for me," but those never happened any way. I suggested, okay, maybe we should just get with couples that we are both attracted to...That's fine! But no, I'm still a dick and a jerk who cares about no one but himself. |
The girls aren't the only ones that get to decide what you do. If you're not attracted, you're just not attracted. Period. I think she's being selfish by pretty much guilting you into playing with this other couple, unless of course, you've done the same thing to her on previous occasions.
I think sometimes the excitement of being in the lifestyle leads to some desperation and clouded judgement.
If you stop for a minute and think, it doesn't make any sense to have bad sex with people you aren't into. Either one of you. Hell, you're together....you can have sex anytime. And, if you think this other woman is fooled into thinking that you're into her, you're kidding yourself. As lousy as it is for you, I'm sure it's as lousy for her.
You really shouldn't full swap with this couple. You and your wife should figure out whether she should play separately with them, or if you should part company with them all together.
Pepper