 Re: How should I proceed: Partner not being honest about protection use
Your second post gives a lot more info to help answer the question. IMO, this isn't a relationship, your ONE of his Fuckbuddy's. You consider him a friend with benefits... that's basically the same thing. The only difference is the latter allows for you to feel that there should be more emotion, more communication, more involvement. I hate to say it but the truth is, he's right. The only person you can really expect to give you what you want is the person you are actually in a relationship with (your husband). As far as this other guy goes, you're just one of the people he's having sex with and as such, what he does with others or who he does it with isn't really of importance to you.
I see your POV, all you want to know is that he is using protection and that you can feel safe in having sex with him. But in reality when it comes to swinging, open relationships, that's something you can never really guarantee. You really have to assume that when people are not WITH you they are not living by the same rules you do. So in the end it's up to you to ensure that when they are with you that you are taking precautions to make sure that your own health, safety and well-being are priority.
I am curious as to what your husband thinks about the situation?
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