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Originally Posted by jid2008 
To Alura, you shouldn't be offended by my comments. For my wife and me, swinging is about enjoying each other and enjoying having a new body in the bedroom, spicing things up. There is no emotional connection, it is strictly for fun, excitement, and pure sexuality. There are plenty of girls that have great personalities that I wouldn't want to hop in bed with.
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I'm not offended, Jid. I just think differently about playmates, I guess.
I've overlooked physical attributes that were not to my liking just because I found the lady to be interesting. For instance, I prefer slender women, but I've had a great time with some ladies who were overweight.
I have trouble "getting it up" if the lady doesn't stimulate my mind. Mrs. Alura is similar. More than once she's said, "He's attractive, knows his way around a woman's pussy, ... I just wish he could talk about something interesting when we're not fucking."
Did you ever consider that the other lady may find you lacking in a particular attribute she likes about men but is "taking one for the team"? She may be trying to keep the friendship alive for her husband and your wife.
In my opinion, playmates are hard enough to find without making it more difficult by demanding certain physical characteristics.
I do agree, however, that if you're not having fun you owe it to yourself, your wife, and the other couple (particularly the lady!) to find more compatible playmates. It may not be that easy, though.
Mr. Alura