My boyfriend takes the lead for a couple of reasons
1) He's a veteran swinger, he's been doing this a lot longer than I have
2) He seems to have an instinct for which couples would be interested in swinging with us (see aforementioned experience)
and
3) He just has a more dominant personality
But I'm speaking up a lot more now and things are going much more to my liking. I even developed some hand signals to let him know when I'm not interested in a particular couple, that way we don't have to excuse ourselves in a club situation to talk it over.
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