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Originally Posted by fullsafefun  My partner now states that it is none of my business whether or not he is seeing other people and became very indignant when questioned because I had obtained information that he was lying about not being with anyone else than the one person I knew about. I have told him I don't want to know any details other than if he is, especially since he has shown in the past that even though he says protection is best, he won't use it. |
Ok, I do realize that you have indicated you and your partner are in an open relationship, and do not define it as swinging. However, to sustain a relationship which is open or to sustain a relationship as swingers, you have to have complete open and honest communication. Everything you've said above goes against open and honest communication.
If you don't have complete honest open communication, I think this relationship has a long way to go to success or a short road to failure. That is if you define this as a relationship and not just two freinds with benefits.
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Originally Posted by fullsafefun How do others think I should proceed with this situation?  I care very much about him. |
If you care about him that much, you need to figure out if his feelings are the same. If not, you need to probably bite the bullet and move on. If his feelings are the same you two may need to close your relationship until you can elevate your communication comfort level and trust level back to a secure state.
Although, honestly from what you've told me, as an outsider I don't think he cares about you as much as you care about him, and that you may be the victim of someone treating you like a security blanket.