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GoNatural · 09-02-2008, 11:20 AM

mixtupcpl, I agree with in some ways, but only to the extent that I believe that non-hierarchial polyamory is a self motivated choice, and not something that is part of human nature. I believe that is can still work, because humans are capable of enjoying creative decision that they make, regardless of what the majority of a given culture does.

Now, hierachial polyamory, where your spouse is your primary and #1 in your life is a different story. This is much closer to the emotional and sexual behavior of humans over the eons of time. They didn't just have purely recreational sex with their "other lovers". Romance, seduction, and possibly love was involved, but this was all secondary (and most always hidden) from their primary partner.

So, it is natural for humans to have affairs. Now that our society is more enlightened, we can understand and accept the drive to be involved with others, and go about it in an honest way.

Having multiple lovers of different ranks in your life is perfectly natural, while being egalitarian about it comes from a concious choice to treat them all equally, if you prefer non-hierarchial polyamory.

09-02-2008, 11:20 AM	#47 (permalink)
GoNatural Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 201 Location: Austin, TX Status: Attatched Male	Re: What brings people to poly? mixtupcpl, I agree with in some ways, but only to the extent that I believe that non-hierarchial polyamory is a self motivated choice, and not something that is part of human nature. I believe that is can still work, because humans are capable of enjoying creative decision that they make, regardless of what the majority of a given culture does. Now, hierachial polyamory, where your spouse is your primary and #1 in your life is a different story. This is much closer to the emotional and sexual behavior of humans over the eons of time. They didn't just have purely recreational sex with their "other lovers". Romance, seduction, and possibly love was involved, but this was all secondary (and most always hidden) from their primary partner. So, it is natural for humans to have affairs. Now that our society is more enlightened, we can understand and accept the drive to be involved with others, and go about it in an honest way. Having multiple lovers of different ranks in your life is perfectly natural, while being egalitarian about it comes from a concious choice to treat them all equally, if you prefer non-hierarchial polyamory.