Its really awe inspiring that such a basic, common sense, thing has generated years of discussion!
The thing I don't get is why so many single guys feel the need to take this shit so personally. As if they're unaware that the vast majority of guys DO behave like assholes and that a VERY small percentage of men can even CONTEMPLATE this LS outside of them "fucking some dudes wife! huh huh"
My litmus test for single males if that was an interest area for us (it isnt) would be "if/when you get married/attached, do YOU plan to discuss sharing with her?" I wonder how many "single male swingers" would answer yes? My guess? Few. That means we're just on different wavelengths which, for me at least, isnt cool. Now of course some would say YES and mean it. And those guys, to me, are real swingers.
If we decide to let some guy fuck my wife, why wouldnt I want the comfort of another couple I know is like minded and shares our basic belief system on it?
For the single guys who can't get past these simple, fundamental, realities, just stick with the ladies (who ARE out there), who are into the MMMMMMMMMMM gang bang kink or the cuck guys (who I *think* may be really out there) who just want their wife serially fucking.
Interesting to note, though, that those two particular kinks above seem to be HUGE pay site fodder which makes me think they appeal to the fantasy of lots of horny, single, guys whacking off in the dark which makes me wonder how many REAL couples are into those lifestyles. But still, I KNOW there are some, and Im sure those areas offer the least barrier to entry for a desperate single (cant be too selective when the goal is for the wife to fuck most of the east coast before her 40th bday
).
The other thing is that most of this shit doesnt apply at all to most of the SM here who seem genuinely thoughtful and respectful of the ladies, the LS and the husbands and you guys should know that. Just by registering here, posting thoughtful comments, and sticking around, you're already WAY WAY ahead of "normal" guys. For guys like that, any couple that seeks a SM to add some spice will be happy to consider you, but you WILL have to fight through ALL of that noise mentioned above. Thats just how it is.