Well, I hope this is the right place to post this request for ideas and suggestions. My wife of more than ten years divorced me (it was final this week). Here's why. Before she and I married I told her that I was very interested in an open marriage or a swinger lifestyle. She said she would try it, but after only two attempts she said she was no longer willing to try any more. Things were fine sexually between us for a few years. Then she began to refuse sexual activity for weeks at a time, sometimes as long as months at a time.
I refused to force myself upon her for concern regarding accusations of "marital rape." I discovered the online world of swinging sites and posted ads for couples who could meet and talk with my wife about the pros and cons of swinging. I never was able to find a couple who was convinced they could "fill the bill." Since I am older (now in my 60s) I decided that, with life being as short as it was (and with a little ED creeping up on me), I would seek a little pleasure outside the marriage while I was capable. (OK, I'll admit it--I cheated on her.) Well, after several months she discovered what I was doing and immediately filed for divorce.
Now that I am divorced I am wondering about the possibility of meeting a nice woman who would be interested in a loving relationship with me, perhaps even marriage, who is familiar with and accepting of the lifestyle and who would want to participate in the lifestyle with me. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions to share with me? Where should, or could, or would I search, and how? Or should I just give up the idea?