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Originally Posted by rpu3  I guess most live together, since this thread has been silent?
One question I had for you was what do you mean by "disconnected" regarding Kitten and Gator? |
Well, they just can't seem to communicate electronically well. They need the sound, and even the expressions, that go along with their communication to really not misunderstand some things. They are working on this.
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Originally Posted by rpu3 One thing that seems to help me is that once I've returned home from a visit, readjusted to home and returned to work is to plan the next visit. Planning, for some reason, really helps me; I like knowing that there something to look forward to out there on the horizon and it's fun to try to find places to go, things to do, and events to see to augment the sex part of things. Luckily, my friend is pretty good about throwing out his available dates so that I can go into my little rituals of planning and researching. |
I'm a planner myself. Not as much as I used to be because it just is difficult for me to get all three of them on board with that. So, I've learned to deal with less structure. I like to know when we are seeing each other again. It makes it easier to get through the times we aren't able to. If I can tell myself, "Ok, four more days is all you have to wait", the wait goes by faster I think.
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Originally Posted by rpu3 We live in a world where the internet can almost alleviate long distances. The words can reach anywhere. Luckily, I love the internet and its tools. It allows for IM and phone service and e-mail. I like to IM or talk on the phone weekly, and I'm a fan of e-mail as well, and I'll send a few during the week with the more mundane stuff to save the real-time communication for more interesting topics. I feel pretty connected via the IM/phone call/e-mail method, which helps when getting together in person; it minimizes the awkward a little. I look forward to seeing my friend, and of course I like in-person better than e-mail, but I can get by in the meantime through electronic communication. |
I'm an internet junkie I suppose. And I've become quite good at texting. Tech and I made a promise to each other to actually talk on the phone more. We've been doing well with that. Because we both have access and find electronic forms of communication easy, we had started to rely on those.
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Originally Posted by rpu3 I can see, with the different dynamics between our situations, how this would be quite hard for you guys. That's a lot of energy, emotional and otherwise, expended trying to maintain your marriages/your quad via a long distance relationship. Trying to have a long distance (for the time being) marriage with someone with whom you crave primacy and closeness and a day-to-day connection must suck. |
Yeah, it definitely sucks sometimes. But in the end, it's worth it.
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Originally Posted by rpu3 Have you figured out any tips of your owns since the time you posted your original query? |
Just to better utilize any time we can squeeze in. Thanks for your help.
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