My wife and I have been talking about swinging for a while now. Until this past weekend, we hadn't had any experiences. We'd done a meet and greet with one couple, but it didn't go anywhere. This past weekend...was..
We decided that August 23rd was going to be a swing day, whether we ended up actually swinging or not. We were going to be with another couple or go to a swinger's club. So, one way or another it'd be a swinging day.
We arrived at the club shortly after it opened that evening, did the sign in, proof of age bit, and got a tour. Soon after we got there, we met another couple who were new to the club (but not the lifestyle) and we quickly hit it off with them. Everything went very well. We retired to a lounge, and then to a room. Though we were ready for and prepared for a full swap, we had a soft swap instead. We both agreed, in retrospect, that was a good idea. We managed to get our feet wet and do kind of an acid test before doing a full swap.
Seeing my wife give and receive oral sex was incredibly hot. Also, watching her give head while I did her from behind was equally hot. For her part, she really enjoyed having sex and giving head at the same time. She was concerned before hand about how she'd feel about me being with another woman, but she came away feeling good about it all. Our main purpose in swinging has been and remains her pleasure, and she had a great time.
We both knew before going in that there were questions that simply couldn't be answered until you had actually tried things. Things we thought might play out never did, and things we never even imagined perked our interest. Little things...like having the play partners hands on your sides seemed slightly strange even though you were doing something intimate to him/her. I had a slight bit of trepidation when he began moving his body to be on top of her while he was orally playing with her breasts, but I had no trepidation when he went down on her and she went down on him. I thought that was a bit odd. Most importantly, the first time I heard her let out a little moan it proved to me that she was having a good time and that tiny bit of trepidation vanished. It was all good, but the little things were interesting to come across.
We don't know if we got lucky or if our luck was the norm, but the couple we hooked up with was fantastic. It all felt very, very comfortable. There was no tension in the room. It all just felt good and fun to do. It's important to my wife that she feel respected and well taken care of. The man she was with was gentle, caring and did a great deal to please her. For my part, the woman I was with was wonderful. I felt completely at ease with her.
Since our evening out, we've been screwing like rabbits and can't get enough of each other. Not like we weren't doing a lot of that beforehand
but things have been very hot since then.
Thanks to this incredible evening, my wife is more confident than ever before that she's ready for full swap. The last time I asked her (last night) if she was ready to have another man, she nodded her head vigorously and said "Yes!" She's said she's also seeing the benefits of swinging more clearly now.
We both had a wonderful time and can't imagine having a better first time experience. I wish all couples had such a first time experience.
We have to attribute some of our success in this experience to this board. Thanks to the staff on this board for creating such a wonderful resource.
We've read and read and read so many things on this board, and much of it really prepared us for our first time. Without it, there would have been a zillion questions left unanswered.