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wpafuncpl · 08-26-2008, 03:33 PM

My wife and I are active in the lifestyle and have been for three years.
When we are together, we play together as a team - with rare exception.
However, I travel on a regular basis for work. When we are apart, we are both free to play as we wish - with the other half's full knowledge and consent. Not that we are playing on a regular basis this way, but we both enjoy having the option to do so if the opportunity presents itself.

To that end, my wife probably has less time available for play when I am away - due to kids, home, etc. Basically she is a single mom at that point, and her free time is usually reserved for sleep. lol However, she has far more OPTIONS available to her. She has the benefit of being in the area where we play as a couple, and therefore knows people and they know me – and understand that I am OK with her playing alone.

I however, have tons of free time, but far fewer options. We have an Swing Lifestyle profile. I have a separate profile as "mrwpafuncpl". I have a cert on the single male profile that is from a couple that also certified our couple profile. All in an attempt to appear legitimate. Truly not trying to be anything but honest in my profile.

The catch is that people, for the most part, are still very suspicious of me. She is willing to vouch that I am allowed to play alone, but obviously she is not going to be able to do so in person. I may be on the west coast, while she is at home??

I am not looking to play with someone new every night or anything like that, but my assignments can last for several months or more, and I would like to find someone who is in the lifestyle when I am traveling to meet up with. Sometimes for just social rather than sexual reasons. IE – its nice to meet a single female or a couple that is interested in single males that you can hang out with and have drinks, dinner, conversation, etc., with the possibility of playtime if everyone agrees. I guess that my ideal situation would be a single female to hang out with, but couples would be ok too. Would like to meet a single female because then we could possibly check out some clubs or swing events while I was in town.

I am looking on swing sites primarily because I DON’T want to play with women that are cheating. Those seem to be available on a lot of sites, but I don’t want to be involved in that kind of drama.

I guess that my ultimate question is, is there anything else that I can do to make myself appear “legitimate”?

08-26-2008, 03:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
wpafuncpl Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 23 Location: Saltsburg	Am I missing anything? My wife and I are active in the lifestyle and have been for three years. When we are together, we play together as a team - with rare exception. However, I travel on a regular basis for work. When we are apart, we are both free to play as we wish - with the other half's full knowledge and consent. Not that we are playing on a regular basis this way, but we both enjoy having the option to do so if the opportunity presents itself. To that end, my wife probably has less time available for play when I am away - due to kids, home, etc. Basically she is a single mom at that point, and her free time is usually reserved for sleep. lol However, she has far more OPTIONS available to her. She has the benefit of being in the area where we play as a couple, and therefore knows people and they know me – and understand that I am OK with her playing alone. I however, have tons of free time, but far fewer options. We have an Swing Lifestyle profile. I have a separate profile as "mrwpafuncpl". I have a cert on the single male profile that is from a couple that also certified our couple profile. All in an attempt to appear legitimate. Truly not trying to be anything but honest in my profile. The catch is that people, for the most part, are still very suspicious of me. She is willing to vouch that I am allowed to play alone, but obviously she is not going to be able to do so in person. I may be on the west coast, while she is at home?? I am not looking to play with someone new every night or anything like that, but my assignments can last for several months or more, and I would like to find someone who is in the lifestyle when I am traveling to meet up with. Sometimes for just social rather than sexual reasons. IE – its nice to meet a single female or a couple that is interested in single males that you can hang out with and have drinks, dinner, conversation, etc., with the possibility of playtime if everyone agrees. I guess that my ideal situation would be a single female to hang out with, but couples would be ok too. Would like to meet a single female because then we could possibly check out some clubs or swing events while I was in town. I am looking on swing sites primarily because I DON’T want to play with women that are cheating. Those seem to be available on a lot of sites, but I don’t want to be involved in that kind of drama. I guess that my ultimate question is, is there anything else that I can do to make myself appear “legitimate”?