The Swingers Board - View Single Post - fell in love

just_me · 08-20-2008, 04:45 PM

I am a married male for 6 years. 32 years old, good career, good looking, etc. My wife and I have been together for 10 years.

I'm posting under a "new" account on this board. My wife and I have been on here for a while, but don't post very often. We've been in the lifestyle on and off for about 8 years.

I'm looking for advice. Let me start.

We met another couple on a 4wheeling camping trip last summer. We instantly became friends with them. We had a LOT in commong with them, so we hit it right off. They had discussed swinging, but never acted on it. The husband is in the army and deployed to iraq a couple of months after we met.

We've never "swung" with this couple.

The other wife and I have a lot in common, including 420. We continued talking over yahoo IM for several months. One thing led to another and we ended up becoming very good friends. My wife and her are good friends, but not as good and the other wife and I. We talk on the phone very often. Many times all three of us (me, my wife and the other wife) will talk. We hang out together about every other weekend.

We live 1.5 hours from each other.

I've fallen in love with her (the army guys wife) very much. I've let both her and my wife know this. As you can imagine, my wife was hurt and upset, but insists that we all remain friends. The husband knows that I love his wife, but since he was in iraq, we couldn't talk much.

The husband got home from iraq today on leave. He is scheduled to be here for two weeks. He has both PTSD and TBI and will most likely NOT be sent back to iraq. We suspect he will get a medical discharge and will be released from the army.

His wife loves him very much and has stated on many occasions that she loves me. She also stated that she loves me as a friend.

I am dying here.

I love my wife, but honestly, I am looking to leave her. There are a lot of reasons for this, one being the fact that she wants kids and I do not.

I am wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice.

08-20-2008, 04:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
just_me Registered Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7 Location: united states of america Status: married male	fell in love - asking for advice I am a married male for 6 years. 32 years old, good career, good looking, etc. My wife and I have been together for 10 years. I'm posting under a "new" account on this board. My wife and I have been on here for a while, but don't post very often. We've been in the lifestyle on and off for about 8 years. I'm looking for advice. Let me start. We met another couple on a 4wheeling camping trip last summer. We instantly became friends with them. We had a LOT in commong with them, so we hit it right off. They had discussed swinging, but never acted on it. The husband is in the army and deployed to iraq a couple of months after we met. We've never "swung" with this couple. The other wife and I have a lot in common, including 420. We continued talking over yahoo IM for several months. One thing led to another and we ended up becoming very good friends. My wife and her are good friends, but not as good and the other wife and I. We talk on the phone very often. Many times all three of us (me, my wife and the other wife) will talk. We hang out together about every other weekend. We live 1.5 hours from each other. I've fallen in love with her (the army guys wife) very much. I've let both her and my wife know this. As you can imagine, my wife was hurt and upset, but insists that we all remain friends. The husband knows that I love his wife, but since he was in iraq, we couldn't talk much. The husband got home from iraq today on leave. He is scheduled to be here for two weeks. He has both PTSD and TBI and will most likely NOT be sent back to iraq. We suspect he will get a medical discharge and will be released from the army. His wife loves him very much and has stated on many occasions that she loves me. She also stated that she loves me as a friend. I am dying here. I love my wife, but honestly, I am looking to leave her. There are a lot of reasons for this, one being the fact that she wants kids and I do not. I am wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice.