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Originally Posted by JnCC

My advice to you would be to inform potential play-partners that you don't have sex with a new person on the night you meet, and ask them for a last name and home phone number. (Most guys happily provide the same to any woman they meet through a vanilla site prior to sex, and the rules here should be no different) If he can't or won't provide that for you, or tells you he "doesn't have a phone number listed," take a pass, darlin'...he's married, or living with someone. Anybody who can afford $50-$60 to attend a club can damn well afford to have a phone listed in their name.

.. quite right my friend

Originally Posted by JnCC

The same thing with last names. I understand the desire for privacy and discretion, but these people are proposing to have sex with you. If they're that concerned with being "private" and "discrete" let them stay home and download porn.

Some people, it seems, don't care about the marital status of single males at swing clubs. They're just there to borrow a "stunt-dick" for a half-hour or so. Others DO care, and they're the ones who need to take a few extra steps to check out prospective partners.

.. 2 advices that everyone must note down