He and I have talked about this at length. He is super-intelligent (I have a brain fetish), a recent college grad, and very closed when it comes to getting to know him. As I stated before, we starting talking about subjects we both are interested in, and he decided that I was not just a shameless flirt, that I actually have value as a person. The only feelings we have, other than friendship, are those of hot mutual attraction and lust. He does not love me, not I him, at least not in the MF relationship way. He is aware that I am married, in love with my husband, and that there will be nothing more between us. He is a gentleman, and in college was not into sex for the sake of sex, but was discerning in that there had to be more to a person for him to "give it up". Sounds weird with what we are planning to do, I know, but we both know that it is only sex, neither of us have had casual sex, and we want to do this. He wants to gain experience so he can have confidence, and I am willing to give him that. I never thought I would ever do something like this, but with a little encouragement from the hubby, it is now a go. If I were even remotely worried that he would go gaga for me I would not do it. Right now we just want to bang each other furiously, which is exactly why we can keep it out of the non-emotional arena. It's just fun, an experience of a lifetime, and I am thankful for the gift my husband is giving me. No offense to the lifestyle, but I am the type that has to feel comfortable with a person before offering myself sexually. This means talking, sharing, trusting, and having fun. We have done that for five months. If I am wrong, then I deal with the consequences. I like you too, by the way. Sorry, but I speak my mind!
